Soul mate connections or soulful connections is a subject I’ve talked about since 2005 on my blog on my old site of and on here. As much research and self- awareness that I have on this subject, I didn’t think I was capable of being surprised. Oh, but I was surprised, not once, but twice. I’ll get to that in a minute.

Without the petal and thorn the rose is incomplete.


From many that I’ve talked to, people believe that a soul mate connection should be pain-free. Hardly any discord or strife – the two get along like two peas in a pod.

Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

Soul Mate Connection Pain

People forget that this soul mate connection weaved with a multitude of past lives, brilliance of each soul, and human fuckery can and will hit brick walls, fall in quicksand, and hurt so bad that you can’t understand why you are still alive.

That soul-searing pain arrives for a reason. Usually, because the human side of one of the two souls mates took control and with the human side comes that all-so-doubting brain. And of course, there’s a lesson involved.

Soul Mate Connection Pleasure

The energy soars through the heart chakra during this connection is unmatched by anything found on earth. It radiates throughout your body. You feel deeply. Motivation drives you to be your best self. Most of all, you can feel the love without speaking.

This kind of soul energy spreads to every cell of your human self. It awakens you to YOU. It’s an incredible feeling that nothing else comes close to – not the rush you feel at reaching a goal or the elation you feel when you reach the end of a current journey.

And sex and intimacy…no matter if it is in person or OBE – nothing matches the pleasure and connectivity.

The closer the souls are to one another, the greater the pleasure and the pain. A twin flame or a member of your soul cluster can elate you to be the best version of yourself that you can be and they can plummet you to the depths of hell.

Energy and soul connections flip both ways – you cannot have one without the other, just as you need the thorn and the petals for a rose. However, you both have control over which one is the dominant force in your relationship.

I’ll talk more about this on Monday’s Ask Allie, and how I came to the realization that with soul mate connections the pain is well worth the pleasure.

So what do you think? Is the pain worth the pleasure? Let me know in the comments below.

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  1. Agghhhh I don’t know if the pain is worth the pleasure. It’s easier to not talk to him but the physical connection is so amazing that I can’t help myself once a month or so.

    Glad I’m in school. It will keep me occupied and my mind/heart won’t need him as much.

    1. I know the energy can be maddening. The pain at times can be soul-numbing. Keeping your mind occupied does help — I’m sure. I know in August when I’m busy again, I will spend less time thinking about him and our connection. As many times as I’ve been gutted because of my soul mate connections, it hasn’t been an easy lesson to learn about the pleasure and the pain. But I hope, since this ah-ha moment, that there will be more pleasure and less pain down the road.

      Keep OBE’ing!
      Allie 🙂


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